I originally wrote this Christmas Day last year. But as I am sitting here today I am now reminded that Diane is gone and this will be the first Christmas without her. My godson will be without his mother on Christmas for the first time in his life. I was reminded of this while watching the movie Beaches which is on the television right now. There are so many similarities between the characters in Beaches and my friendship with Diane. This is one of my favorite movies and makes me cry each and every time I watch it. Not sure why I continue to watch it – but I always do.
Below is a poem that was sent to me when my Mom died. It’s providing that same comfort to me knowing that Diane is spending Christmas in Heaven this year. Share it if you want.
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When my Mom passed in June 2008, my whole world came to a complete stand still. I lost my mom, my best friend… the love of my life. Christmas is always a difficult time for me. I spent all of my Christmas Holidays with her. It’s been more than 6 years since I’ve awaken to the smell of her homemade rolls or the smell of turkey. I am really missing having breakfast with her. She always made it so special.
When the 2008 Christmas Season came, someone sent me a card with a typed note inside. There wasn’t a name and no author of the poem. Each year I try to send this to friends who have lost someone this year – someone they will miss this “First Christmas.” If you are missing someone today (even your beloved pet) – they are watching over you. Please share this with those who have lost a loved one this year.
“My First Christmas in Heaven”
I see the countless Christmas Trees around the world below,
with tiny lights, like heaven’s stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away that tear,
for I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear,
but the sounds of music can’t compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
for it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me. I see the pain inside your heart,
but I am not so far away. We really aren’t apart.
So be happy for me dear ones. You know I hold you dear,
and be glad I’m spending Christmas, with Jesus Christ this year.
I send you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above.
I send you each a memory of, my undying love.
After all “LOVE” is the gift, more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do,
for I can’t count the blessing or love he has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear,
Remember, I’m spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
~~Author Unknown at this time…
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Thank you for sharing, Anita. I’m trying to type this comment with tears in my eyes.
I am sorry for your loss. {{{hugs}}}
Thanks Susan. I posted this mostly to share as someone shared with me. It’s better this year than the first year. I hope others can find the same comfort I found in reading it. Merry Christmas!
Anita, I send you compassionate hugs this morning. I lost my father in 1999 and a long-term relationship this year…Susan’s father died on her birthday in February and her mother died in July. It contributed to the expiration of our relationship and I am sad, too, this day.
I send you light and hope and again, more compassion.
Peace and gentleness,
Doug Arnold
Thank you Doug. So sorry for your loss. Relationships suffer a lot when we are grieving for loved ones. My relationship ended shortly after my Mom’s passing also. I hope you are able to get through this holiday knowing that with time (your own time), that things will get better or will become more manageable for you. xoxo
Thank you, Anita. I am grateful for your comments and hopeful words this day. I didn’t know that you suffered a relationship loss after the passing of your mother; I guess that happens more than I know. I honor you, your spirit, and all the wonderful things that you do for your community both within and outside WordPress.
I need to get a pet for myself.
Namasté and bless you,
Doug
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Anita,
This is simply beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss but know, although your mother is not with you physically, she is always with you spiritually and in your heart. Today I’m missing my mother, father, and brother as well as some beloved pets. I feel peace in knowing they are in a better place yet still in my heart. Cherish the memories.
Bren
Bren, I saw your post about Cokie this morning. That’s what made me post this. So sorry for your loss. My Buster is 14 and a half and I can’t imagine how I will feel when he joins my Mom. Love Cokie’s blog too. I did a site for Buster here many years ago. I really need to update it. Hope you are having a great day today.
Hello Anita, I’m very sorry for your loss, my wife and I are spendng our first Xmas with out her Mom. It has been a very tuff year for my wife and I because she was so close with her mom and we loved her dearly.
I don’t think we will ever really get over this because she was a very big part of our life and it’s kind of hard doing things with out her.
We have so many good memorries we shared with her and will never forget her. God bless you for posting this and may god keep you and your family safe.
RobG
Thank you Rob. I understand wholeheartedly. It took me five years to “get myself together.” You will never get over it, but I will say – it will get a little easier over time. How much time? In your own time… in your wife’s own time. There isn’t a time limit. I never thought I’d be this far, but it’s much easier to deal with on a day-to-day basis. The holidays, her birthday, my birthday and other special occasions are the most difficult time. The in-between times are less stressful for me. Keep active, remember her fondly, look at her pictures… I am sure she’s with you all. I am sure my Mom is watching over me.
We are doing all we can to cope with this loss but over time I hope the pain will get better. God bless